THE decision to take one of a child not by chance. People should check if this path is right for them before rushing into parenthood, so they don’t regret it later, like a couple who didn’t share their details but admitted online to become parents, after after all, is not the best thing for them.
Mom claims to be anonymous she and her husband regret having a child, an experience they thought was completely different.
The bill Tik Tok who received the confession in a text message that shared it on the internet, raising public awareness of the disturbing truth of many young and confused parents.
Kelley Daring is an entrepreneur who often shares the anonymous confessions of parents and spouses on TikTok, giving reassuring advice to those who need it, because they may be regretting a decision in their personal life.
In the 17th episode of the series “Regretful Parents,” Daring talks about a couple who fell in love and have been together since high school. In order to live as long as they wanted and ensure the longevity of their relationship, they waited until a few years after graduation to get married – a decision they never regretted.
However, this feeling did not last after having their child.
“My husband has been told all his life that he is a magnet for children”explained the woman in her confession. “He’s been told over and over that he’s so good with the kids that he’s sure to do his own thing and everyone’s looking forward to that.”
The woman added that her mother was a single mother struggling to survive but expressed gratitude to her children, as “they saved his life”as he said.
“He always told the story of his life as if it had to end, until his first child was born and everything changed,” reads TikToker. “He has a reason to live and he wants me to experience the same.”
The neutral reaction to the idea of ​​having a child
Despite their love for children and the encouragement of their families, they were both unsure if they wanted to be parents.
She then explains that she herself has never been very close to children – she loves them, but she does not feel connected to them and she is not happy with the idea of ​​motherhood.
“When the kids came, I said I don’t care”shared by the woman. “I know I can be a good mother. I know what I need to adjust in my life to be present for a child. My husband in the same question does not show greater enthusiasm. -he’s just a shoulder.”
So is the both are not looking forward to having children, but they agreed and a year after their wedding, the woman became pregnant.
“It feels like it happened so quickly”revealed to the woman. “I’m enjoying the bedroom decor and the attention from friends and family, hoping my instincts about motherhood will change.”
He also explained how his anxiety increased during his time pregnancy HIM. She felt overwhelmed by what she read about motherhood: the methods of parenting, the news of nutrition, but above all the comments from mothers to mothers and the negative criticism that she sees many receive. She felt pressured and resentful of the changes in her body during pregnancy.
When she finally gave birth and saw her baby for the first time, she saw that it was cute, a little ugly and sticky.
The woman admitted that she felt no connection with her son.
Feelings after giving birth
Many people may be excited about the idea of ​​getting one CHILDREN BUT his upbringing is a different issue, while the couple’s lifestyle has completely changed. Often, expectations do not exactly correspond to reality.
After giving birth, the woman admitted that all she felt was “a new reality he must learn.” This disconnection with the baby can be a symptom of postpartum depression, which the woman reports experiencing.
“I feel so alone”He wrote. “My husband was there, but I think he also felt the emptiness. I don’t want the baby. I want it to go away. I want someone to take it.”
“A decision I made weighed me down and I tried to think of ways to escape”continued the woman. “I hate myself for not being able to do it, for not being a good mother, for not wanting to be with my child. I feel crushed.”
Chiropractic can make it difficult for mothers to develop a loving relationship after the birth of their child. They may feel distant and embarrassed by their lack of connection, but this is a common experience that lasts from months to years.
The couple’s claim about their child
A few years ago, the woman and her husband were talking about their thoughts on parenting and discovered that their feelings for each other.
“We have someone who needs us and who we really don’t want”He wrote. “We both felt we were lied to. Our families conspire and encourage us to have a life we ​​don’t want. We don’t like having children. We really hate what a child brings. The anger we feel towards our families is beyond all limits. “
Mama ended her confession by assuring that she and her husband they became good parents and learned to love their child. However, he admitted that if he is re-elected he will not have a child.
The comments under this particular post are mostly about how sad this story is, but tpointed to the fact that the couple made a decision under pressure, are not ready and allow third parties (their parents) to intervene in their lives.