mone of the most unpleasant expressions that we hear in our daily life is the warning “calm». It’s in the same category as the phrases “don’t worry”, “don’t stress” and is usually the most irritating of all. A lawyer advises those who often hear this phrase to respond appropriately and gives two simple, but equally jaw-dropping examples.
The American lawyer Jefferson Fisher, through a video on TikTok, spoke to his followers about this specific issue and emphasized that no one should speak ill of anyone who spoke in the series of word “calm”, though he immediately knew the boldness with which he uttered it. He admits, and probably rightly so, that if anyone wants to have him control on emotions and, therefore, in each situation, one of the following must be answered:
1. “You mean calm or shut up?”
This question is actually clarifying and not ironic. Our interlocutor is invited to respond if he does not want to hear our complaints at that moment, for any reason, such as eg because the more we express them the more angry we become.
The answer to this question shows whether the interlocutor really likes us inner peace or he just wants us not to talk, so he won’t be disturbed.
2. “no”
The most generous answer is well combined with explanations such as the following: “I decide if I want to be calm,” “I can’t adjust my emotions based on whether you’re comfortable with them.”
It can be said alone, and this way the interlocutor understands that we are not here to play and please others.